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A lot of people in late October tell Dobbins they wish they could go to sleep and wake up in January.
Waking up to find it’s the day after Christmas, some breathe a sigh of relief that the day has passed, she said.
They made it through the holiday and can now look at what they need to do for themselves. One thing that’s important is finding someone to confide in, she said. Dobbins stressed this needs to be a person who listens without giving a lot of “need, should or ought to” statements. It should be someone who will allow someone to grieve and express the thoughts and feelings often kept inside, she said.
Sometimes that person can be a friend, sometimes a professional and often support groups str helpful. Consider finding people who have experienced a similar loss and share honestly with one another things that have helped, she said.
Writing or journaling also helps, she added.
While time doesn’t totally heal, she said, be assured that if a person is allowing themselves to express their feelings and thoughts and to grieve openly, things do become less intense as time goes by.
Advice from grief counselor Wanda Dobbins