My goals to accomplish in 2013

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By Becca Owsley

I’m not big on resolutions. It sounds so formal and law-like, as if you’re saying “I do so resolve.”

But in a new year, most people are focused on resolving something. I’d rather call them goals.

The other day I posted a few of my goals for 2013 on Facebook. The more I post them, say them out loud or put them in print, the more likely I actually will acheive some of them.

One of the so-called goals is to actually accomplish two of the four main goals I came up with.

Finish writing my book and send it to an agent or publisher. This has shown up on my yearly goals for about five years now. There’s something about taking a story you created and handing it over to someone else to scrutinize that’s terrifying. You get attached to the people and places you write and when someone tells you there’s something wrong with what you wrote, it’s like they are insulting one of your kids.

Accomplished authors probably don’t have as much of a problem with it, but for me, it’s hard to pass along to someone else something I’ve worked on for so long.

Save up money to go to England, Scotland or Ireland and actually start planning the trip. I’m afraid to say this shows up on the list a lot, too. I’ve wanted to go for some time and start off the year saving up for it. But just like the little old couple in the Pixar film “Up,” something goes wrong with the car or something breaks in the house and the trip jar gets pilfered for those expenses.

A friend recently told me to stop saying “if I go” and start saying “when I go.” That might be good advice to help me be more determined to accomplish this goal.

Try out for a play or musical. After posting this one on Facebook I was told by many this will happen. I forgot when posting it that I had many friends in the local theater community who have now said this has gone from a goal to a reality. What they don’t know is I get very nervous when I’m in front of people.

I’m a behind-the- scenes or behind-the- keyboard type of person. When I’m in front of small or large groups, I suddenly get very nervous. Seriously, be warned if I do try to complete this goal. I might throw up all over the stage. It could be an unfortunate scene similar to the pie eating contest in “Stand by Me.”

Maybe that’s why I studied directing and producing films in my undergraduate work instead of acting.

Go to a cool sporting event. This one is more for my dad than me. Before he died, we had made so many plans to go to sporting events he had always wanted to go to but never did it. We talked about going to a major league baseball game together, seeing the Packers play in the frigid Lambeau Field, actually going to see the University of Kentucky Wildcats play in the SEC or NCCA tournaments instead of just watching it on TV and various other events.

We never got to do that but it’s something I still want to do, just to keep close to him.

There are many goals I could add to this list, including being more attentive to others’ needs instead of my own and reading my Bible more, but this will do. Hopefully I can accomplish at least one or two, or mark off one of the ones that tend to reoccur each year.

But lately I’ve learned to stop putting things off so I’m going to try to be more diligent at accomplishing my goals.

That is the wisdom I wish to impart at the beginning of 2013. Don’t put things off and learn to enjoy life. Don’t stress over meeting goals, but if there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, try to do it this year.

Becca Owsley can be reached at (270) 505-1741 or bowsley@thenewsenterprise.com.