Words spoken with kindness can change a life just as words spoken with harmful intent can affect a person for a lifetime.
Being a people watcher, it always is interesting to watch and listen at airports, malls or social gatherings. It is quite amazing to hear what people say. Sometimes words are hurtful, disrespectful and downright mean. People insert their thoughts and feelings occasionally without filters.
When I was younger and thought about having multiple children, I pictured them as the best of friends. They would play ball or dolls together, or maybe build intricate Lego houses complete with stairs and rooftop gardens. They would always talk kindly to each other and think of ways to make the other one’s day better.
Reality, of course, rarely follows that sort of idealistic daydream. It’s usually much louder and more disagreeable than I ever could have imagined.
We’ll take our middle son with us, pick up our youngest in Lexington and head for Franklin, N.C., where my husband’s family has a small vacation home on a gravel road near the top of Meadow Mountain. Our oldest son and his wife will join us Friday, driving in from Charleston, S.C.
I don’t know what has happened to manners in today’s society. Some people are so rude. I know we all have busy lives and sometimes unpleasant things happen to all of us. But you know what I called that? Life.
You can be a very positive, upbeat person, but let’s face it. In life you have to deal with difficult people.
There might be difficult people at your church, school, family, friends or workplace. In most situations, you can choose to avoid these people. But in the workplace, you sometimes are forced to work with the most challenging of personalities. As a life coach, this is a very popular topic and many ask me to help them cope and turn this negative to a positive.
A lot of what shaped Holly Harris VonLuehrte, 36, growing up in Hardin County, she said, was the result of being around a lot of strong, opinionated women.
VonLuehrte, who was born in Elizabethtown, serves in Frankfort as the first chief of staff of the Kentucky Department of Agriculture.
While she credits both parents for providing support and encouragement, VonLuehrte was influenced particularly by her mother and her mother’s friends. Those strong women continue to be a source of inspiration, she said.
Jennifer Murphy moved to Elizabethtown five years ago when many military families moved to the area from Fort Hood, Texas.
But the 32-year-old has nothing to do with the military — Murphy followed friends moving to Fort Knox.
“I was looking for a change and they were moving up here to Fort Knox so I thought, ‘Hey, I guess I’ll just go there,’” Murphy said.
After living in big cities, she appreciated going to the grocery and seeing someone she knows. She came to like the small-city atmosphere.
At 83, Chieko Davis keeps busy with a variety of talents and interests.
Davis’ friend Janet Gebler calls her a renaissance woman.
“Chieko has become extremely accomplished in art, music, gardening and cooking,” Gebler said. “But what is most impressive about Chieko is that in spite of all her accomplishments she is a genuinely shy and humble person.”