Students around the community soon will return from summer break to another school year. If you have a child in school, the chances are they will encounter a peer with special needs.
According to a 2018 Department of Education report, 13 percent of students in the U.S. were served under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act in the 2015-16 school year. These students include those with specific learning disabilities, speech and language impairment, autism, intellectual disabilities and others.
Parents might find it crucial for their children to understand those with special needs and make them feel inclusive, as naivety on the issue can lead to confusion at best and bullying at worst.
According to a 2016 research article by Chad Rose and Nicholas Gage for research journal Exceptional Children, students with special needs report greater rates of victimization than students without disabilities. In addition, the research found their victimization remains consistent over time.
Students with disabilities also are more worried about being injured or harassed at school compared to students without a disability, according to a 2009 research article by Conway Saylor and John Leach in the Journal of Developmental and Physical Disabilities.
LaRue County Schools Special Education Director Carole Brown said for students to understand their peers with special needs, parents should explain their differences in straightforward and simple terms.
“Just as we all have differences, we all have different ways to communicate,” Brown said.
Brown said it is important to frame these differences in a positive light, and to explain the strength in being unique. She said this often is the way she explains these differences to students.
“I explain to them that everybody is unique,” she said. “I explain that and relate that to kids. I say, ‘You’re unique because of this and they’re unique because of this.’”
Brown said it might be best to talk to your child about these differences when they begin to ask questions on the matter instead of bringing it up when they are not naturally curious.
Brown said children’s books can be a helpful resource in explaining special needs to children in simple and engaging terms. Some of these books might include “All Cats Have Asperger Syndrome” and “All Dogs Have ADHD” by Kathy Hoopmann, “My Friend Isabelle” by Eliza Woloson and “Views From Our Shoes” by Donald Joseph Meyer.
Brown said parents also might consider getting to know parents of special needs children in the community to better understand and empathize. She said arranging play dates for your children and getting to know these parents also will help establish a support system for them.
“Sometimes they have guilt for no reason – they didn’t do anything wrong – but they do because their child can’t take care of themselves,” she said. “(It’s important) for them to have support.”